Category: Discover Your Self

Goals, guidelines and keywords

Chris Brogan writes about Your 3 Goals for 2009. He boils it down to three keywords.

Try setting your three words far out on the horizon, but such that they can lead you to your goals every day. Meaning, can you use the same word to get you started, but have it still be relevant when you’re almost at the big goal?

I admit that at first I thought that having only three words would be a limitation but I have changed my mind. Boiling it down to a few words makes me flexible and agile, it is easy to check new things and ideas against those words.

  • If it matches all my keywords – go for it.
  • If it matches none of my keywords – drop it.
  • If it matches some of my keywords – can it be modified (with reasonable effort) to match all my keywords then go for it, otherwise drop it.

I posted My Best Year Yet 2009 which is my guidelines and goals for 2009. My keywords shall contain the essence of my guidelines and goals for 2009 but also be in line with my inner compass and life purpose. I picked these keywords:

  • Trust covers “trust my inner voice”, build trust and be trustworthy.
  • Connect goes outwards (connect to more people in real life and virtually, be visible and valuable) as well as inwards (connect to my inner self).
  • Grow covers grow my business, see Key Coaching, and grow as a person. It includes Learn and Share. I am a life long learner, sharing knowledge and ideas is fun.

It feels as if these three key words are based on my inner values and will last for more than just 2009.

Credit: Photo by JoF.

Read more:
Your Best Year Yet – The 10 questions that will change your life forever

This was originally posted at Forty Plus Two, another blog of mine.

My Best Year Yet 2009

I have been working with the book Your Best Year Yet – The 10 questions that will change your life forever and figured I should put my result on my blog. Two reasons for that, putting pressure on myself and hopefully to inspire others to work with that book.

My guidelines

• Trust my heart and inner truth.
• Face the music!
• Do what I love.

New paradigm.

I create my own destiny.

Major focus.

My own business, with focus on coaching.

My top ten goals.

  1. Care for my mind – body – spirit.
  2. Be visible and valuable.
  3. Build a profitable business.
  4. Build friendships.
  5. Network locally – with a purpose, in real life.
  6. Create and follow a blogging schedule.
  7. Network virtually – with a purpose.
  8. Become a certified coach.
  9. Maintain and rebuild family connections.
  10. Be flexible!

I put taking good care of myself as goal one simply since if I am not well then everything else will falter too.

Credit: Photo by JoF.

This was originally posted at Forty Plus Two, another blog of mine.

What about my 2008?

It is that time of the year when we look back at the past year and start thinking about the next. In Turning 2008 into 80-20 I listed what I intended to focus on during 2008:
• In fall 2007 I finished a course and became a professional coach. Coaching is my baby for 2008 and where most of my efforts will be focused.
• I will set off time for my blogging efforts with the intention to post regularly at my three main blogs. The fourth one, doodling, is for fun and requires no set schedule.
• On a more personal level I intend to enjoy life, be in the here and now.

I would say I have managed 2.5 out of three. Number one and number three are related since I love working as a coach, it makes me enjoy life and what I do. During the year I have invested more time in practizing yoga and mindfulness. I am pleased with the result on those two. My blogging has been going up and down, I will probably have to reconsider that issue for 2009.

I have decided to walk my talk and that will definately affect my plans for 2009. Plans are currently in the works, I am using the book Your Best Year Yet as a toolbox for that. To make things happen next year I intend to use The Manifestation Wheel which is an interesting concept.

This was originally posted at Forty Plus Two, another blog of mine.

Your Best Year Yet

This review is about Your Best Year Yet – The 10 questions that will change your life forever, written by Jinny Ditzler. I came across this book since it should be the topic for a breakfast seminar at CoachCompanion. The book felt right and I ordered the book at once, before being at the seminar.

I like this book a lot, it is well written and has a clear concept. The book is in three parts, first an introduction, then a part with a chapter for each of the ten questions and finally a workshop with forms for each of the ten questions. It says ‘three hours to change your life’, that is what the workshop part will take you.

You can go straight to working with the ten questions but I found it very useful to read part one and two before that. In part two with chapters per question you will get an understanding of why these questions, why in this order and what will you gain in the process. There are also examples for each question that helps you get started.

The strongest motivation for doing Best Year Yet is that you find the way to live your life so it shows what really matters to you – so you are true to yourself.

These are the ten questions, you start with looking back on your past year and then start working on the coming year:
1. What did I accomplish?
2. What were my biggest disappointments?
3. What did I learn?
4. How do I limit myself, and how can I stop?
5. What are my personal values?
6. What roles do I play in my life?
7. Which role is my major focus for the next year?
8. What are my goals for each role?
9. What are my top ten goals for the next year?
10. How can I make sure I achieve them?

Question four is about how we limit ourselves and how to stop that.

Our limiting beliefs about ourselves become like brick walls in front of us, keeping us from even thinking about how to make the big changes or set the big goals.

Question five is about personal values, that chapter has an interesting part about life pursuits. Which one is yours?
I What can I do to prove myself? To be good enough?
II What can I do with the gifts I have?

Question six is about our roles in life. Jinny points out the importance of taking care of ourselves:

You must take care of yourself so you can take care of others and carry out your responsibilities.

In question eight about goals, Jinny connects back to values from question five:

Value-driven goals lead to behaviour and performance which are true expressions of who we are.

Summary
I highly recommend this book if you want a toolbox that helps you improve your life. Learn from the past and more about yourself, all in order to make the next year your best year yet.

Read more:
Best Year Yet, FREE Online Workshop
Your Best Year Yet! – the introduction
Best Year Yet – website
Know Yourself Change Yourself, a great book about beliefs and values.

This was originally posted at Forty Plus Two, another blog of mine.

Finding Your Howl

As I mention in Lightworker I woke up one morning and had two words ringing in my head. The first one, ochoa, is Basque and means wolf. That did not ring any bell back then but today it makes sense. I came across Finding Your Howl over at ChangeThis.

To find our howl we have to pay a price… This process may feel like a death and may at its most intense terrify us and at its least unsettle us. This is the price of finding our howl, our own one of a kind authentic voice, and there is no way around it…

The only way out of our self-erected prison is to go through it completely. There is no quick escape, every square inch of our imprisonment must be touched and lived through before it can be abandoned.

About a week ago I had the phrase “Find my voice” spinning in my head. Like many I am searching for my authentic voice, my own howl. We hope it will be easy but as the e-book, says, it comes with a price.

This was originally posted at Zen And More, another blog of mine.

Turning 2008 into 80-20

I know we are in the middle of December but with holidays coming up there are not that many workdays left of 2007. Which means I take a shoot at what I intend to do next year, and how.

Chris Garrett posted about The 80/20 Rule of Effort. It is about summing up 2007 and looking forward into 2008. Chris writes:

One conclusion I have to draw from this year that I will take into the next is how I have squandered my time.

Squander (waste; spend thoughtlessly; throw away) is a harsh word but I am guilty of the same with some of my time. It could have been used better and that is where the 80-20-rule comes in. The Pareto principle (also known as the 80-20 rule) states that, for many phenomena, 80% of the effects comes from 20% of the efforts. In other words, find the 20% of your work that really makes a difference and cut down on the other 80%.

Benjamin On WOWNDADI posts 10 Tips To Gain You a Better 08. That is a great list and I will comment on some of them.

1. Set good goals.
This is important and so is to follow up on them, are we heading in the right direction and in the desired speed?

2. Quit stuff.
This is where 80-20 can help us, we can quit more than we think and spend that time on our core issues instead.

6. Commit to learning something new.
I believe in life long learning so this is a must for me.

And what do I intend to focus on during 2008?
I recently finished a course and became a professional coach. Coaching is my baby for next year and where most of my efforts will be focused.

I will set off time for my blogging efforts with the intention to post regularly at my three main blogs. The fourth one, doodling, is for fun and requires no set schedule.

On a more personal level I intend to enjoy life, be in the here and now.

Additional reading about the Pareto principle:

This was originally posted at Forty Plus Two, another blog of mine.

Life and baseball

Baseball does have some similarities to life. In life or baseball you have to do similar things to win.

1. You have to play the game. Philosophizing about it on the sidelines doesn’t accomplish anything.

2. You have to take your foot off first base and risk being thrown out to advance.

3. Swing away! People remember how many times you hit the ball out of the park. They don’t care how many times you struck out.

4. Nobody bats a thousand. It’s a game of percentages.

5. A perfect game is thrown one good pitch at a time. It’s the accumulation of many small things done well that gets you in the hall of fame.

6. When you do connect, touch all of the bases on your way around. You wouldn’t want to miss anything

7. Have some fun. In the end it’s all a game.

(Source unknown but I like the text.)

This was originally posted at Forty Plus Two, another blog of mine.